My Next Thirty Years
BY THE UNSTUCK DUCK
“In my next thirty years, I’m gonna have some fun…”
This morning I was washing the dishes and listening to music and an old favourite of mine came on – My Next Thirty Years by Tim McGraw. As I was singing along, I did the math and thought hmmm – in 30 years, I’ll be 76.
Then I realized – my Dad was 76 when he passed away. So was his mom, my Gramma Woodrow. Both of them were amazing people. I came to the conclusion that I would be happy to join the 76 club if I could be with the likes of them.
As I chewed on this for the next few hours, it got me thinking. What DO I want for my next thirty years? Who do I want to be? What do I want to do? What do I want to learn, share, explore, contribute?
I think so often we go about our lives bobbing like corks in the ocean, going from day to day, year to year, without any intentionality at all. It’s crazy how many people trudge through their lives in reactionary mode. If we knew our expiry date would we do anything differently?
When my Dad was diagnosed with brain cancer I was devastated. I also knew that I wanted every interaction with him, with my step-mom, with my own family, to be kind, patient and full of grace for each other. It was not easy.
As someone who spent the first 45 years going through life with my elbows up, it was super hard not to rage against the injustice of losing my favourite person in the world. But I also realized that the reason I was so hurt was because I loved him so deeply, and he loved me back just as much – if not more. And, in looking around, I knew that I did not want my explosive nature to ruin the relationships that would still be standing once I lost him.
Living life with purpose on purpose is a muscle that needs to be exercised.
It requires forethought. Choice. Engagement. It means being proactive in how we want to show up in the world. In how we want our relationships to look. In how we want our obituary to read.
For me – I want to make a difference here on this earth. I want to be a coach that contributes to a sea of women living more fulfilling lives. I want to be a Mom of boys that are change makers in and of themselves. I want my marriage to be kind, supportive, and an equal partnership. I want to laugh daily, to love deeply, and to stand up for what it right. I want to be as awesome as my dog thinks I am.
Situational purpose is being intentional about creating the experience we want in each moment. It’s about making choices and taking responsibility for our own actions and reactions. We don’t always have control over the world around us, but if we are clear on what we want, and who we want to BE, we can control how we act and react to those moments that we can’t control.
So what do you want your next 30 years to look like? What’s the most important to you? And, when you look at your life right now, are you creating the experience you want right now? If the answer is no, what do you want to change?
Teri is a Certified Executive Coach through Royal Roads University, and a graduate of the Purpose Project™. She lives in Victoria BC with her husband Jeff, a revolving door of teenagers, her awesome golden mountain dog Indy, and a one-eyed cat named Tallie.
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